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Emotions,
emotions, emotions...how can I master the Oceans of Emotions?
Number one, turn off the Television and any music with
lyrics. Leave them off for at least 2 months while your find your own
emotional self. Sensory input can have a dramatic influence on how we
feel in our daily lives. We also learn our techniques for managing life
based on what we observer others doing. If a child is being rewarded for
lashing out violently with excessive attention (striking, yelling, and
scolding are attention), then we learn simply by watching that violence
gets rewarded. What most people are unaware of is that 95% of all behavioral
learning take place subconsciously in the nervous system and brain based
on the "Pavlovian" stimulus response reward system.
Another very important fact is that your subconscious mind cannot tell
the difference between imagination and reality (why else would we cry
or be scared at a move that we know good and well is a bunch of actors
reciting rehearsed lines in front of a film camera, with dozens of burly
crew members and hot lights all around them?) It's not real, but your
emotional body (subconscious) doesn't know that unless your conscious
mind steps in to constantly remind it. This is just as true with plain
language; if you hear your neighbor moaning "I can't take it anymore,
I just wanna die" then your subconscious feels that statement as
if YOU said it. Now imaging the amplified power of that statement if you
add rhythm behind it and some catchy melody and a trance harmony (in other
words make a song out of it). You get the idea. Good music helps the subconscious
swallow language like a bad pill.
Ahhh…now that you have peace in your environment, you are ready to
tackle to rough waters within, so read on and learn…
Emotions are energy-in-motion in your body - yes, electrical impulses
traveling your nerve pathways setting off chemical releases that result
in internal changes that we experience as emotions. For example:
• Can you feel the heat rise in your face and your
heart rate increase when you feel anger?
• Can you feel your pits sweating, heart racing, breathing stop and
knees wobble when you feel fear? (My latest audition for a local play)
• Can you feel time stop and awareness heighten when you experience
sharp pain?
• Can you feel the tears in your eyes and the choking in your throat
when you see a wonderful scene in a movie, or hear powerfully inspiring
lyric in a song?
• Can you remember the numb feeling of depression?
Emotions are a combination of biological functions:
Hormones being released by specific endocrine glands into the blood
stream to change things like heart rate, blood sugar level, endorphin
level, even white blood cells and oxidants in body tissues. Emotions are
our mechanism for processing trauma in the life - whether is be physical
or psychological, and emotional events that are resisted, or suppressed
can be anchored into biological memory through calcification of nerve
endpoints and their reflexive tissues. Though humans can make a conscious
choice to either express or suppress emotions, our techniques for handling
feelings as they are encountered have generally become automatic, and
in the past have generally led to emotional suppression.
Each emotion is processed in the human body by specific
glands and/or organs, and when suppression occurs these glands / organs
slowly calcify shutting the body down over time. We experience this effect
as "aging".
Unfortunately there are many ways to suppress emotions,
the most common being simply using our spoken language with word patterns
such as "I don't feel", "I can't", "It's hard",
and "I feel like". Yet suppressing emotions requires a large
amount of energy and years of practice, so our society has provided many
additional tools for supression such as: Alcohol, drugs of any type, candy/sugar,
smoking, negative music, personal liability law suits, simple denial,
the list goes on.
Expressing emotions on the other hand is easy and natural,
though habits of suppression may need to be broken. Some simple ways to
express emotions are:
Breathing deeply. Saying, "I choose to feel…" Quit drinking,
drugs (even aspirin), candy, and smoking. Become willing to face your
fears. Honor your emotions and feelings. Hug someone who loves you. Choose
to forgive an enemy. Practice humility.
Here are some tips that will speed up your emotional
education process:
You are the only Master of your emotions… if you choose to be.
You are the only one who can choose how you feel.
You are the only one who is responsible for how you feel.
You are the only one who can change how you feel.
You can change how you feel at any time period. How?
By choosing to feel a new way now. It's up to you.
No emotions are bad or wrong ever.
Feeling is healing. If you are feeling your feelings, then you are healing.
Do not avoid any lower emotions such as fear, grief, anger or pain they
are the gateways to their attributes (or opposites) - faith, joy, forgiveness,
and love
The easiest way to express your emotions and heal your your insides is.....SPEAK.
Honestly expressing how you feel through words is paramount to having
emotional heath and in truth, happiness in life.
When you experience a lower emotion, its attribute
is on the way. Thus…
Pain is love, health, life and enthusiasm returning
Anger is harmony, cooperation and forgiveness returning
Fear is faith, courage, confidence and self-esteem returning
Grief is joy, happiness and passion returning
Apathy is action returning
Unconsciousness is knowing, understanding and clarity returning
You can identify Emotions by the words that you are
speaking
"What if…" indicates fear / worry
"You did it to me." (blame) indicates anger
"It hurts to…" indicates pain
"they always …" "I never…" indicates grief
/ sadness
"It's hard…" "I can't…" indicates apathy
"I don't know…" indicates unconsciousness
What are some of the benefits of EXPRESSING, FEELING and accepting your
emotions?
Your life stabilizes - the roller coaster levels out.
You regain control of you - others cease to control how you feel.
Your self-esteem builds rapidly.
You can handle greater pressure and more responsibility
You can relate to and empower others.
You take actions that require courage
You rebuild yourself as new from past trauma, hardship or tragedy.
You learn from the past and gain wisdom.
You really begin to enjoy living
You ultimately find your reason for existing and your passions in life.
There you have it! Lots of good info on your emotions
and feelings. Read it again and put it on your refrigerator, because how
you feel is the most important factor of motivation, success and happiness
in your life. You have the keys, you have the means. Put your feeling
and emtions into words and speak your way to success.
by John Clark
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